When we become a Mom we realize our responsibility. In fact, it is not just the responsibility but something that we truly want to do, something that we love to do. Without even thinking twice about our work, we quit, or try to find a way so that we are able to be there for our baby. If the circumstances are such that we are working full time our heart and soul are always there with our baby.
No complains, no regrets… this is a voluntary decision and we don’t become very special for doing this for our baby. Our baby is anyday worth more than any of these things.
But we do need a little empathy, a little more understanding… when people around us casually say, ‘Nahin ye toh ab kaam nahi kar rahi hai, ghar per hi rehti hai, bacche ko bhi toh zaroorat hai’ Honestly, I virtually punch those people in my mind.
Another one, ‘Kya farak padta hai, bachcha school jaane lagega tab phir se kaam shuru kar lena’… As if companies out there are waiting for us to start and will give us the position that we left. So let me tell you, we will have to start all over again. Yes, we do it once when we get married, and again when the baby is born. We start again and again and again. Therefore, we expect people around us to respect the fact that we gave up not just a job, but a dream that we live for our entire lives. We study hard for this position, work even harder to perform better than a lot more people to reach there.
For our baby, yes, we would not even think twice before giving up everything but that does not mean that people around us can take us for granted or simply ignore the fact that we are also individuals with some dreams and aspirations…
This one is also heard many a times, ‘Teaching job achchi hai… kaam bhi ho jata hai or bachcche k saath bhi reh sakte hain’ . Can you please keep your advice to yourself? We know what we have to do for our baby and we know how we can manage our time.
‘Kaam karo per usmein itna involve mat ho jao’ ... Excuse me! How can you work without dedication? Just go to office like a lifeless being just for the sake of getting salary? NO! We don’t work like that.
A mother gives up her career and dream just for her baby and it is important for the people around her to make her feel that they respect the decision she has taken because here she is definitely the bigger person.
Everything that we happily give up is because we want to be with our baby. We want to play with our baby, we want to be there when our baby learns to walk or talk. And NO, we mothers, do not judge other moms who are working because we know that every mother loves her baby as much as other moms do. Working, not working, stay-at-home, work-from-home. Stop giving us labels. We are MOMS! Moms who love their babies beyond limits.